Terrible 2s - 3s.

You’ve heard of this dreaded stage. What makes two so terrible? Your toddler is talking, fully mobile, discovering the world and has likes, dislikes and desires. What you want doesn’t count. It’s full speed ahead, after anything of interest, be it dangerous or fascinating. The mindset is, “I’m curious, I’m able, I have my own mind. Why can’t I do what I want?” It is one of the biggest challenges to a parent. How can you let discovery progress, without causing harm or damage? Good luck. 

Here are some basics for handling the terrible toddler. One of your best tools is distraction. He or she wants something forbidden. A saltshaker. Introduce something else of interest. A spoon. This doesn’t always work. Nothing does. A firm explanation that, “This is salt. It can make you sick.” is enough of a reason. Give another choice that you define. Rather than your toddler playing with your phone, offer a favorite toy. “This is mine and it’s not a toy for kids. Let’s play with your “whatever.” Good luck again. 

Don’t negotiate! If “don’t” doesn’t work . . .

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